When do you experience anger? You become angry when you are frustrated, unhappy, or when your feelings are hurt. You also experience it when plans don’t turn out as desired, or when coming against opposition or criticism.
Anger never helps anyone. It wastes your energy and hurts your health, spoils your relationships, and causes you to miss opportunities. Getting angry is acting against your best interests.
Plans do not always proceed according to expectations, and people do not always act the way you wish them to act. This can cause anger.
You do always have control of situations and conditions, but you can certainly learn to control your attitude and reactions toward them.
Everyone gets angry or irritated sometimes, and you have probably asked yourself more than once, how to overcome anger.
- There is no sense in allowing circumstances and people to pull your strings and disturb your mind and feelings.
- You can choose not to let what people say and do affect your state of mind.
- You can maintain an inner attitude of emotional and mental detachment and refuse to allow every minor event to play with your feelings and cause anger.
Anger Is a Negative Emotion
I often see people getting angry over unimportant and insignificant matters. An insignificant remark, not getting a satisfactory reply to a question, or just moodiness, is enough to set fire and cause anger, snappy remarks, arguments, and even physical aggression. This is absolutely unnecessary. Life can be happier without this behavior.
Anger is a negative reaction, which should be eliminated if you wish to progress on the path of self-improvement and spiritual growth.
Learning to calm down the restlessness of the mind and gaining inner peace, is one of the best and most effective methods to overcome anger, and in fact, all negative emotions.
If you are willing to invest the time and energy to get inner peace, you will reap great rewards. Peace of mind will not only help you overcome anger, but also help you overcome anxiety and negative thinking, and enable you to stay calm, tranquil, and self-possessed in difficult and trying situations.
A certain measure of detachment is also helpful for avoiding anger. It can protect you against being too affected by what people think, say or do, and is, therefore, highly recommended. Detachment is not an attitude of indifference and lack of sensitivity. It is an attitude of common sense and inner strength, which leads to peace of mind.
Besides peace of mind and emotional detachment, I would like to suggest a few tips.
How to Overcome Anger – 12 Tips
How to overcome anger? There are various ways and various methods and therapies to do so. In this article, I would like to suggest a few simple ways that everyone can follow. If the problem is acute and serious, one should seek professional help.
Simple Tips for Overcoming Anger
1. Think about life with no anger
Devote a few minutes, at least once a day, to thinking about how much your life would be better without anger. Think of various scenarios, where you usually become angry, and how your life be and how you would feel without it.
2. Take a few deep breaths
Every time you feel that anger is arising in you, take a few deep, slow breaths.
3. Counting numbers
Another method to avoid irritability, resentment, or anger is to start counting slowly from one to ten. This will delay your angry reaction and weaken it.
4. Drinking and eating
Drinking some water has a calming effect on the body and feelings, as well as eating something sweet.
When possible, go outside and take a short walk, or do some physical exercises.
6. Patience and tolerance
Try to be more patient and considerate, no matter how difficult this might be. Strive to be more tolerant with people, even with people that you don’t like or don’t agree with their opinions.
7. Tact and diplomacy
Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion. You can disagree with people, but you still need to maintain tact and diplomacy.
8. Reacting calmly
Choose to react calmly and peacefully in every situation. Try to do so over and again, regardless of how many times you lose control and get angry. It would help, if you once or twice a day, visualize yourself acting calmly in various everyday situations. This mental rehearsal would program your mind to act in the same way in your daily life.
9. Positive thinking
Positive thinking makes it easier to disregard remarks and behavior that otherwise could cause anger. A positive attitude makes you a happier and more positive person. With this kind of attitude, there is less probability of expressing anger.
10. Self-control and self-discipline
A certain degree of self-control and self-discipline is a great treasure for everyone. These skills, which you can develop, can help you restrain anger, disregard it, and help you choose your reactions, instead of acting rashly and without thinking.
11. Not taking things personally
Don’t take everything too seriously. Do not take everything too personally. It is not worth it. It would be a good idea to develop some degree of detachment. A little detachment would help you stay calm and undisturbed by what people say and do, and avoid being affected by their anger or negative feelings. This is actually the topic of my book Emotional Detachment for Happier Life.
Find reasons to smile and laugh more often. This would help you become a happier person, and would make you liked more. A smile and a positive attitude can relieve tension, resentment, and anger in you and in the people around you.
Follow these 12 tips for overcoming anger, or at least a few of them, and you will see how your life and your relationships change for the better.